Click here for ideas on how friends and family can support a family that is dealing with the loss of their baby.
It is a difficult time- you come home without your child and it seems like everyone around you gets back to their own lives. And then the mail starts. Little diapers in the mail. Samples of formula. Postcards welcoming your child. Milestone checklists of what your child should be doing at this stage. Each trip to the mailbox is a little ticking time bomb.
There is a way to get your name off these lists. Ask a friend or family member to help if you need it. This information is provided as a service and I can't guarantee effectiveness, but it is what was provided to me. Good luck- gentle days, emilySend a letter to the following address and request the removal of your name from any baby product mailing list. Provide your name and address. You need to request all variations of your name should be removed such as Mr & Mrs. John Doe, Mary and John Doe, Parents of Baby Doe, etc. It can take up to 90 days to take effect.
Mail Preference Service
Direct Marketing Association
PO Box 9008
Farmingdale, NY 11735-9008
To remove yourself from other baby product lists, write to:
Mail Reference Service
6 East 43rd Street
New York, NY 10017
or PHONE (212)689-4977
To remove yourself from the Gerber Baby Products list, write to:
445 State Street
Fremont, Michigan 49413
or PHONE (616)928-2000
This list is provided as a resource. If you feel overwhelmed or beyond help PLEASE tell someone and get help. There are many excellent resources for depression or people feeling suicidal thoughts. Please do not suffer in silence. Here are some common signs of grief. They may include the following:
Tightness in chest
Tightness in throat
Oversensitivity to noise
Weakness in muscles
Lack of energy
Hollowness in the stomach
Dreams of deceased
Avoidance of reminders
Clinging to reminders
Sense of presence
Hearing and seeing the deceased
Often it helps to know you are not alone in this journey. There are many families that have experienced the loss of a baby. These sites have message boards and chat rooms. I have found these sites very welcoming and understanding as I have traveled this journey of grief.
NationalShare.org The message boards have been an amazing support to me
Kotapress In particular I love the idea of continued parenting and Kara's zine she sends. Lots of ideas and a neat loss dictionary
Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep- Sends professional photographers free of charge to take photographs of the short time you may have to hold your child
A Place To Remember Many memory itemsResources from The Compassionate Friends (many for grandparents)
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
Each year, approximately a million pregnancies in the U.S. end in miscarriage, stillbirth or the death of the newborn child. National observance of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month offers us the opportunity to increase our understanding of the great tragedy involved in the deaths of unborn and newborn babies. It also enables us to consider how, as individuals and communities, we can meet the needs of bereaved parents and family members on work to prevent causes of these problems.
Health care professionals recognize that trends of recent years, such as smaller family size and postponement of childbearing, adds another dimension of poignancy to the grief of parents who have lost infants. More than 700 local, national and international support groups are supplying programs and strategies designed to help parents cope with their loss. Parents who have suffered their own losses, health care professionals and specially trained hospital staff members are helping newly bereaved parents deal constructively with loss...
The Congress, by Senate Joint Resolution 314, has designated the month of October, as "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month" and authorized and requested the President to issue a proclamation in observance of this month.
NOW, THEREFORE, I RONALD REAGAN, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim the month of October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities.
IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-fifth day of October in the year of our Lord nineteen hundred and eighty-eight and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirteenth.
United States of America
There are approximately 6 million pregnancies every year throughout the United States:
Every year in the United States there are approximately 2 million women who experience pregnancy loss:
Every year in the United States:
statistics taken from American Pregnancy Association website
click on the link to connect to their site http://www.americanpregnancy.org/main/statistics.html
The holidays are particularly difficult after the loss of a child. I have included some ideas to help get through this time of year. I celebrate Christmas, but no doubt some of the information may suit other holidays as well.
please click here http://www.pregnancylossribbons.com/facingtheholidays.htm